Recently we went to attend the annual day celebration at my son’s school. The preparations for the same had started from quite some time and it appeared that each and every student was supposed to participate in some or other activities. Continue reading
Kids are the most beautiful gift of this materialistic world. A smile on their face makes us forget all our agonies. They are our future and they become what we teach them to be. Couples without kids are the most unfortunate beings in this world. The childless couples go from temples to churches to daragahs for the fulfillment of their desire of having kids. Many of these succeed too making firm the belief of the existence of a supernatural power in this world.
Parents do anything and everything for the happiness of their kids. Many fall in the trap of pseudo-religious leaders who take the parents for a ride and poor parents let that happen. It is said that Mughal emperor Babur sacrificed his own life for the good health of his son Humayun. King Dhritarashtra’s blind love for his son is also well known. Over and above all, the mother’s love for her kids is beyond the words.
This love is the source of various superstitions of which most are common with all the parents all over the world irrespective of their education levels. For example, black cat crossing your path will make you think twice before proceeding. Similarly, you may not initiate many things on Friday, the 13th or say ‘touchwood’ for something good to stay forever.
Our kids in their early ages were quite cranky especially during the night time. They used to get up in the middle of their sleep and start crying for no known reasons. This generally used to happen on the days when we take the kids for some outing, be it in the park or the malls etc. Even when someone visited our house to see the kids, this was noticed. We used to check for possible stomach ache or something related but never could find any reasons. Few times we were forced to take the kids to the doctors in the mid of the might but it didn’t help much either.
Fortunately my grandmother during her visit to our place noticed this and suggested us to put a black spot on a child’s forehead before taking outside. This, she told will make the child look bit of ugly and the kid will stay protected from the so-called evil powers. This, I noticed was the common practice among all our relatives and they used to religiously put a little dot of kohl on the side of a child’s forehead a negative vibe over the kid Though I was not convinced, the father inside me forced me to follow this and we saw appreciable difference.
Over and above this, she also advised us to perform an exercise for ‘removing evil eye’ from the kid by taking a pinch of salt in the fist and them moving the fist circling the kid’s head seven times and then disposing off the salt in the running tap water. This also appeared ridiculous but then parents are the breeds who do many such unscientific things for the health, happiness and well being of their kids. And, to my surprise this worked quite effectively. People told that there are various scientific explanations for this, but for us the output mattered more than the justification and there are few things that do not in any way stifle the spirits of the concerned parents.
Note: The above write up is purely based on the experience and in no way justifies or promotes the ritual. This is just shared for readers to be aware and share their experiences.
I have always studied like an obedient scholar
but none of the subjects had made life simpler
I read chemistry understanding reactions better
but my chemistry never became better with her
I studied physics too much like an avid litterateur
that in no way helped in getting physical with her
I confess I was not a history student in contrary
but that can’t affect badly my background history
though I am glad that my mathematics was bright
but that didn’t help in getting my equations right
statistics too was a cakewalk like bioinformatics
but I never commented on anyone’s vital statistics
my geography looked affected with some syndrome
so I could never find out the location of her home
for me even the economics remained unexplained
that was cause for my pockets remaining drained
I had no clue on the importance of political science
and I could never become a liar under its guiadance
the study of engineering too was out of the race
as i could never really enginner my personal space
therefore I can very well say all study and no play
can become the real cause of a person’s mental decay
your agonies are yours, my sufferings are mine
we have differing mind we have distinct design
your pleasures are yours, my happiness is mine
we have differing souls, we have separate sign
you are a party animal but I am a lonely bird
you remain in your flock but I prefer my herd
you withdraw yourself but I want it on the face
you may be an angel but I am from human race
your lifestyle is different, my lifestyle is discrete
you always want to win but I embrace the defeat
we have different lives, but something is common
that makes two of us bit different from everyone
though my story is mine and your story is yours
let’s carve a fresh story that can be called ours
They say that I am full of zeal and energy
but the reason is that I am full of allergy
I am allergic to prevailing malfeasance
I am allergic to professional negligence
I am allergic to waking up in morning
I am allergic to roots of global warming
I am allergic to people behaving stupid
I am allergic to someone playing cupid
I am allergic to negativity in the masses
I am allergic to weight reduction classes
I am allergic to facing weekly mondays
I am allergic to working slots on sundays
I am allergic to people always on phone
I am allergic to fingers full of gemstone
I am allergic to people predicting future
I am allergic to people married to computer
I am allergic to the internal server error
I am allergic to people promoting terror
if one feels hurt I tender my appologies
I am proud and I love al these allergies
After the efforts put for yesterday’s conversation
I will try to convey to you without any reservation
who knows tomorrow one may plan preservation
this should not build the unexpected frustration
let us honestly concentrate on today’s reservations
it is much hated word in many developed nations
in some countries it is the symbol of identification
but surely it doesn’t go well with new generation
reservation ignoring abilities is a social suffocation
if required it may be limited to the field of education
the reservation for tourism be the only application
which gives equal opportunity for entire population
reservation should be positivity without any negation
like the faith is nothing but trust without reservation
I was reading on internet about various instances where a husband has given divorce to his wife just by pronouncing ‘Talaq’. And with the advent of new technology in our daily lives, the deliverance of this type of divorce also has automatically been upgraded to match the latest trends.
So, now it is the video call, the WhatsApp, the Facebook and all such tech friendly social media which is being exploited by the dominant men to show women their place! The big question is why the mindsets are not upgraded?
I always wonder, if leave the religious binding, how exactly it works? I tried telling my wife, ‘Shut up’, Shut up’, ‘Shut up’, three times, still there was not much appreciable effect. However I have noticed that when the same is from her side, even for just one time, the effect is perceptible. This is attributed immediately to woman dominating in the family. So, is there anything wrong in that?
Men literally have no moral, social and technical right to dominate in a family. The only fact that they have a different biological structure that makes them less susceptible to physical abuse and harm is being taken as the license to declare themselves superior.
The greater part of the society still follows that orthodox unethical logic and resists the change. But the real fact is that, if the social security is guaranteed, there is absolutely no need for women to be dependent on men but the vice-versa is not true. That makes men the weaker sex.
How many single fathers are successful? If we see the data, due to natural and social causes, more women were forced to stay single despite having the responsibility of raising their kids. Men immediately jump to the next boat of marriage which they do get easily, thanks to the biological and social reasons. That again proves men the weaker sex.
Most of the men are born to women (except those who indulge in rape and killings of women) and when they are young, they understand the power of a woman. They are purely dependent on their mother and respect women till the testosterone levels rise, social influences dominate and mould them into the absurd personality of a man. That is the real sign of a weaker sex.
How many men know how to change the diapers of the babies? How to bottle feed them? What is their immunization schedule? When to start the solid food? And above all how much time do men spend with their infants though being the best phase of a man’s life?
Few of my uncles have never held their kids on their lap? They limit themselves to asking the questions, where is the kid? What is she or he doing? Is everything fine? That’s it! They have never sat with their kids for talking with them, playing with them, making a project or making them do their homework.
These men think, their job is only to earn money and that is the reason why they are the head of the family. They think that they run the family and without them everything will come to a standstill. How can one call such men as fathers? They don’t understand that this limits them to mere sponsors or in most case, the ‘sperm donator’.
So, if a man gets a civilian job that requires him to stay away from family frequently or for long then better to take up farming instead. Those who feel that being busy in meetings, staying late night in office for earning money is fetching comfort to their family members and helping them leading an extravagant life, it is totally wrong. There are many things money can’t replace and one of them is togetherness. It is always the ‘family first’.
Marriage is a deemed institution with no one as the principal. Husband and wife are the faculty members and other relatives, the supporting staff. Parents raise the kids imparting the education that no external school can. I am still not able to understand how it can be closed by just a voice or a video call or a message?