They say it is International women’s day (IWD) today, on March 8. One need not wonder what about the other days? Men should also not feel insecure about knowing or celebrating the IWD or breaking their head in finding the International men day. All days are for all the creatures in this planet which rotates on its axis that causes day and night which we count for 24 hours.
Yes, this is a special day for women (and men) as it is to celebrate the success of women in their respective fields and also to applaud the new areas the women are exploring and conquering. There is effectively nothing left in this world that can be termed as ‘man only’ domain which nature has not restricted. And that brings the needle of the gender balance to the middle.
However there is another aspect of such celebrations. What is the relevance and applicability of the seminars, conferences etc. organized on this day? Who benefits? Are the people attending them are unaware of those points highlighted in the talks? There need to be much more ground celebrations on this day. Especially among the poor, the tribal and the orthodox part of the world where the women are still struggling to get their due share of respect and equality.
On this day, let each one of us carry out an introspection on this day as to how much we have contributed towards the equality of women? At least to the women whom we are living with, to our sisters, our daughters and above all, the better half? As men we may not have much say on what goes through our mother or the sister but definitely, we are responsible to what kind of treatment we give to our daughters and wife. If we correct ourselves at personal level there, things will be definitely under balance.
As far as the official scenario is concerned, there is a lot improvement required. But if we understand our responsibility and remain true to ourselves, there will be drastic improvement. Can we imagine a scenario where:
In office as the boss, we ensure that the women subordinates are treated equally without any prejudice.
- In public places we keep our eye focus on the women same way as we do it for men.
- In isolated areas we do not get the adrenaline rush pumping out seeing a lonely woman.
- We treat our daughter –in-law equal (if not better) to our daughters
- The police personnel nail the ‘crime against women’ culprits on war footing
- A pregnant woman is treated as Goddess.
- The worker class women are treated with respect and pride and not someone who can be taken for a ride, literally.
- The cases in the court bear priority tag with lawyers pushing for speedy justice.
- The mercy petitions for ‘crime against women’ are out rightly rejected.
- The administrators at local and district level see that the women applicants are given their due.
- The husbands share the household tasks equally especially the kitchen.
- The diapers of the kids are equally changed by the fathers.
- The fathers take care of the kids for a considerable amount of time.
This is definitely not a comprehensive list which takes care of the inherent inequality that is embedded in the system nor is the commandments for a balanced society. If anywhere we feel we fit in, let’s improve upon that area with the efforts that come directly from the bottom of the heart. That certainly will be a great tribute to the society (not women) on this IWD.
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Beauty that the Mother Nature offers to us is just awesome. People visit the places blooming with flowers and the greenery and feel elated. My friends visited places rich in natural beauty, natural resources, flora and fauna, this New Year.
But I was at home. The reason was quite simple. I have a cute little daughter. And One of the greatest gifts I’ve ever gotten is my daughter (Ace Frehley). Probably others have not carefully noticed their little ones smiling, but when my daughter smiles, I feel that there have been flowers blooming all around. As she walks slowly and cautiously on the while tiles of the house, it appears as if I am visiting the Antarctic area with Penguin walking to reach me in its unique style. She laughs and it seems that the small pearls inside her little mouth will beautify the entire surroundings.
As David Duchovny says and I too agree that “The happiest moment of my life was probably when my daughter was born”.
She calls people around with names she is slowly taught and it appears that the sweet voice of cuckoo is making the environment delightful. Her playful actions, her crawling, her standing and falling down, her rolling, all comes like a delight pre-programmed by the Mother Nature to soothe the eyes and souls of the parents and the onlookers. Why one need to go to temple when the Almighty Himself has descended in the form of the daughter.
That is one of the reasons why I rush back to house after work. As Hugh Jackman mentions, “When I come home, my daughter will run to the door and give me a big hug, and everything that’s happened that day just melts away” the same is true for me too. I may be bit cruel but sometimes I feel pity on those who either do not have any daughter or do not spend time seeing the angel growing up. No amount of money gathering exercise can replace this wealth. Once this phase passes away, no matter how many million dollars one invests he is not going to get anything back.
A daughter makes the life of parents special and that is nothing less than an achievement!
(The above write-up is in response to the request by one of my close friend and a well wisher)
As New Year arrives people tend to adopt many resolutions and try to follow them. The number of resolutions may vary. Some feel they are too perfect to make any resolutions, some do not believe in waiting for a new year to make resolutions. Some make a single resolution and see that they follow it throughout the year and also thereafter. Some have a list of resolutions which they try to attempt and succeed in few or all of them. Some make a resolution not to make any resolutions. Continue reading
And finally the #MeToo revolution was triggered in our part of the world. Till now we were just following the stories from other parts of the world especially the USA and debating on them. Until one fine day one of the so-called victim stood up and shared her side of the story. The story was soon encapsulated in the searching shell of #MeToo and the much awaited trigger was finally pressed. Though there was not much of hype anticipated in this part of the world as the number of socially proven rape cases daily are far more than the number of #MeToo cases expected. In this part of the world, where every minute a Draupadi is being molested and all the Dhritarashtras and Bhishmas remain passive and mute, what value a #MeToo case can carry? Seeing the plight of women in this part of the world, these victims unanimously agree that #MeToo cases are far too less a molestation for them. That probably may be one of the reasons why #MeToo arrived so late in this part of the world. Continue reading
contd….from earlier part
Sitting on a railway platform and watching the arrival and departure of the trains is the best pastime one can have. At least for this, one need not have the smart phone or the internet. Since you don’t have to catch a train, you can sit relaxing, perhaps sipping a cup of tea and watch passengers rushing for their seats. The hawkers, the porters, the movement of trains, all make it a carnival like atmosphere around. I enjoy this dynamic atmosphere a lot. Continue reading
This straightforward question started troubling my mind when I encountered a situation which is quite common for all.
Recently I had to go to the railway station to pick up my wife as my happy days as forced bachelor were coming to an end with the arrival of my wife from her mother’s place. She always insisted on me picking her up from the station. Possibly she wanted to read my expressions on encountering her after a lull. But I am doubly sure even if the expectations on the expressions were not up to the mark she is not going to catch a return train back home in any case? Continue reading