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the daily loops

Though the time was too less to expend

she promised just two minutes spend

she started her make-up while I waited

the ‘while’ loop was so well executed

went shopping and calculated at the end

not a single penny was left out to defend

she had spent for her the money correctly

the ‘for’ loop was executed so perfectly

then she laid down conditions for next visit

the conditional loop was the one to exhibit

I turned other side and yelled on her acts

demonstrated the open loop with the facts

she overheard and stood by me face to face

on the earth there was no escaping place

she returned all the abuses to my direction

the closed loop was executed with perfection

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Can a MIL be a genuine mother?

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You would have come across various prose and poetic pieces on various media on ‘Mother’ but have you encounter any write ups or poetry on ‘Mother-in-Law’? We must treat all females of our mother’s age as our own mothers, then where had all the praise vanished for a mother-in-law? We celebrate mother’s day but have you heard of any mother-in-law’s day. It may exist but with a low profile.

When I asked these questions to some of my friends, I got a single reiterated answer; a mother-in-law (MIL) cannot, by any means, replace or match the mother. Surprisingly, even though, the same person is playing both the roles but the differences in the character and the nature creep in automatically by design. Some of the male friends did admit that their MIL showers almost similar affection as their mother but the females unanimously had a single answer and that was in negative.

And, I too felt the difference seeing the females getting such biased treatment by their MIL. Though, not many differences are experienced with father and the Father-in-law by the couples, when it comes to mother and MIL, it turns out to be drastic. This is supported by the well accepted conclusion that, a woman cannot by any reason, treat her daughter and daughter-in-law (DIL) equal. And this is because of the fact that she sets and follows separate rules for her daughter which change radically when it comes to DIL.

A woman wants her daughter to live in all sorts of comforts after marriage but the comfort levels offered by her to her DIL are mostly questionable.

She wants a nuclear family for her daughter so that she doesn’t over-burden herself by serving the in-laws in a joint family after marriage but she expects her DIL to serve the entire clan. She imparts ‘special wisdom’ to her daughter on how to handle the in-laws diplomatically but expects her DIL to be simple and truthful.

She wants house maids for her daughter in her in-laws place but she expects her DIL to be superwoman who can singlehandedly complete all the tasks, including cooking, cleaning, washing etc. DIL are, in general never relieved from work to spend some leisurely moments.

She wishes to be in touch with her daughter through phone etc. when she is in her in-laws house but feels irritated when her DIL’s mother calls.

For her, daughter’s husband is responsible for all the faults or quarrels in the house, but her son remains the most innocent person on earth. She also holds responsible her daughter’s MIL for any dispute in their house but she always targets her DIL for all the disputes in her house.

She wishes her daughter’s MIL behave like a real mother but she never takes any step for becoming the same for her DIL. She expects new clothes, jewellery etc. for her daughter at special occasions but never thinks of gifting such things to her DIL.

She hardly cares for her DIL during pregnancy but expects the in-laws of her daughter to take care of everything during her daughter’s pregnancy. She explains the entire diet chart to her daughter over phone but hardly reveals anything to her DIL during pregnancy. Some over-biased mothers send fruits and nuts to her daughter but seldom provide such comfort to their DIL. For her daughter, giving birth to either a boy or a girl is OK, but she like an orthodox uneducated woman, expects her DIL to give birth only to a son! 

She wants her daughter to come to her place anytime as her wish and remain there but feels annoyed when her DIL expresses similar wishes.

She wants complete freedom for her daughter as far as wearing the clothes, eating habits or discipline is concerned, but she imposes all sorts of rules and regulations for her DIL.

She keeps assisting her daughter and feels proud of her achievements but most of the times doesn’t get pleased by her DIL success. If her daughter is a working woman, she gets worried of her comfort levels after office hours, but if her DIL is a working woman, she expects her to take care of all the household activities after coming from office. An exclusive example of double standards people possess.

There are many such examples which are too disgraceful to be discussed but still experienced by many females after their marriage. And then the questions arise, how is it possible for a woman to maintain dual character? Why is that a woman doesn’t understand another woman? Why a woman feels happy in torturing other woman? Why a MIL forgets the fact that she also was once a newly wed DIL. She also must have faced similar challenges and problems then why doesn’t she want her DIL life to be smooth and simple? Why she can’t let the DIL feel ‘at home’? Why can’t she create such an environment that her DIL’s forgets her original family?

There may be few DILs who possibly consider the above statements as wrong. I wish it should have been. As keeping DIL happier may, by the law of nature, keep daughter’s life also happier. MILs are also humans, so are the DILs. So, this plea is to every MIL, please embrace your DIL like your own daughter and shower her with all your love and affection so that DIL should start doubting if she was born to you or to someone else? Days never remain the same always, but making them favourable depends on our own acts and deeds. What you sow, so you reap theory applies everywhere. If we understand this truth in time, our life on planet earth will become easier.

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Let’s party

today bottle, tomorrow glass

WordPress has its own class

thereafter its beer and bar

celebrations are not too far

this will be our party place

literal joy in a literary space

rise up and share your views

shower us with poetic booze

offer us with photographic ice

the haiku will be added spice

don’t care for right or wrong

come! let’s party all day long

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intellectual’s paradise

WordPress is ultimately a writer’s heaven

of novel writings and poetic expression

and it is also an intellectuals paradise

sometimes longreads sometimes precise

the members create amicable environment

working towards mental enlightenment

the prompts prompt for writing everyday

to hit the publish button, come what may

it is more like a second home for many of us

where we mourn failures and celebrate success

it has encapsulated the entire world in it

planet earth has become a family we admit

I am really proud to be associated with it

and ready to open my heart and transmit

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the real triumph

we may strive hard to be on the top

but there be a line where we stop

can’t compromise with peace of mind

as tranquillity in life is difficult to find

triumph is not when victory is ours

it is only when the happiness ushers

it is when we see joyful faces around

it is when a weak hopeless is crowned

it is when there is peace in the world

when music in the ears of deaf furled

triumph is not a discrete personality trait

it is what the entire humankind celebrate

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wonderful kingdom

being here gives me too much pleasure

hard to conceive difficult to measure

all my companions from distant places

from diverse cultures and different races

walking with me on my artistic expedition

variety of writings in this literary mission

various landmarks, prompts and challenges

varied novelistic and eloquent poetic packages

this is an ocean of knowledge and wisdom

proud to be part of this wonderful kingdom

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The power of acknowledgement

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There were days when people used to send letter by registered post to make sure it reaches the destination. To get the confirmation for the delivery, a white colour tag was generally attached to the registered letter. The tag termed as ‘acknowledgement card’ was the proof of delivery of the letter to the receiver and the sender used to wait for the acknowledgement to come back to him. Most of the letters especially those sent to government offices were tagged with this card as people feared that the department or the people concerned may misplace or ignore the post. Continue reading