Do you like visiting a historical museum or an archaeological site? Many of us may not and many just wonder why people spend their time and money in seeing things which people say ‘were used by the historical figures earlier’. Whether it is the dress worn by the kings or the gun, or the vessels, the throne, the crown, the equipment, the cushion, the locks etc. all these can tell the current generation how we have been evolved over the years. These historical things are the testimony of it. Continue reading
Life teaches us many things that we keep reading even in the books too, but what a married life teaches generally varies from couples to couples. Still it is worth learning from the experiences from someone who is married as they say, ‘Marriage is like a sweet, whether you choose to eat it or not, you will either way repent’.
Generally in a traditional society the responsibility for the household work goes to the females, which is being moderated as the society is heading towards ‘gender equality’. Women are more and more competing with men and taking up all the stuff that men once boasted of exclusively theirs. The ‘only men’ domains are perfectly barged in and successfully occupied by women. However this remained more or less a ‘one way traffic’. Men mostly never tried to attempt what was earmarked as the women’s job. So the flow didn’t happen in the reversible fashion.
One of the best examples to ponder is the art and the responsibility of cooking. As the law of inheritance mostly the daughters helped their mothers in the household work. In this process they learned cooking and continued the same even after their marriages. Even in the working couples, it is an unwritten understanding that the women will be cooking for the family after returning from the job. They do. Some manage by multitasking, some by outsourcing a bit and some by getting help from their male counterparts.
What about men? Men never owned cooking as their activity at home. However it is normal to see ‘only men’ chefs and cooks at every hotel in this world. So most of the Chefs are men but not the vice versa. Surprisingly these men after returning back to home wish to eat the food what their female counterparts cook! So, at home cooking still remained a women’s job for them and what they cook is regarded as the ‘official work’!
Notwithstanding all this, in my opinion each and every man should know cooking. In traditional old-fashioned families, boys are treated as the prince and the girls, the maid servant. So the boys are not allowed to carry out or even help in the household activities. That is the reason once they come out of the parents’ umbrella either pre-planned or abrupt, they struggle to survive. They keep quenching their hunger with ‘ready to eat’ stuff or the ‘outside cooked’ food and somehow manage to remain alive.
Many such men see a valid and stressing point in getting married. They will get pleasure to their tongue and tummy with ‘home made food’ apart from the much awaited sexual pleasure. And for that reason, if their female counterpart falls ill for even a day or so, their life turns like hell. The ailing wife has to forget all the pain and sickness to cook even in that condition for their royal husband raising the valid question as to who is really sick. The wife with the fever and pain or the helpless incapable husband? And if the wife has to visit her mother or the mother in law place for few days, the husband becomes sick even listening to that. Others too ask, how will he manage food? And the fairy tale continues.
So, the crux of the matter is that each and every individual, if holds a stomach should be able to survive if and only if he possesses the ability to cook. Standing on your own feet is socially equivalent to cooking by your own hands. You may never feel left out, cornered, humiliated or frustrated after marriage or even before that, if you possess this skill. Undoubtedly, the art of cooking makes the personality shine luminously bright of its own light. No eclipses, no darkness!
Recently we went to attend the annual day celebration at my son’s school. The preparations for the same had started from quite some time and it appeared that each and every student was supposed to participate in some or other activities. Continue reading
you are always so very uncompromising
undeterred, uncomplaining, unconditional
unbelievable, unimaginable, unstoppable
you are the women and you are a miracle
you are, so the house has become a home
because of you the kids are brought up
you maintain balance in human lives
you are only one who never gives up
you don’t ever feel the need of a man
but a man always want you with him
you are behind the success of a man
your roles are the most powerful ones
you are the foundation stone of a family
you are called the better part traditionally
you never take any task just for granted
if you never did then you never wanted
you are the powerhouse fully equipped
O women! you are one to be worshipped
I don’t really know what makes me suspicious
for your eyes seems to be betrayed frequently
and I am the most unequivocal person on earth
who is trying to live the complex life decently
the honesty today is seen with great suspicion
the straightforwardness leads to skepticism
the helping hand is seen as the hand of devil
the greetings are taken as the words of evil
has being friendly become a crime today
why being selfish has become prime today
can’t the world become a global village for us
where all in this world can ride a family bus
men are born free but never independent
most of the men always remain shackled
piece of land takes away peace of mind
most of the men always remain rattled
men in general try to have an upper hand
but most of the men always remain flaccid
decency is indisputable ornament of women
and most of the men never remain placid
as money is the biggest known trouble
most of the men always remain troubled
as women are the toughest known puzzles
most of the men always remain puzzled
lack of focus is the reason for the failures
most of the men always remain unfocused
it is said that the honest is the best policy
still most of the men never remain honest
Kids are the most beautiful gift of this materialistic world. A smile on their face makes us forget all our agonies. They are our future and they become what we teach them to be. Couples without kids are the most unfortunate beings in this world. The childless couples go from temples to churches to daragahs for the fulfillment of their desire of having kids. Many of these succeed too making firm the belief of the existence of a supernatural power in this world.
Parents do anything and everything for the happiness of their kids. Many fall in the trap of pseudo-religious leaders who take the parents for a ride and poor parents let that happen. It is said that Mughal emperor Babur sacrificed his own life for the good health of his son Humayun. King Dhritarashtra’s blind love for his son is also well known. Over and above all, the mother’s love for her kids is beyond the words.
This love is the source of various superstitions of which most are common with all the parents all over the world irrespective of their education levels. For example, black cat crossing your path will make you think twice before proceeding. Similarly, you may not initiate many things on Friday, the 13th or say ‘touchwood’ for something good to stay forever.
Our kids in their early ages were quite cranky especially during the night time. They used to get up in the middle of their sleep and start crying for no known reasons. This generally used to happen on the days when we take the kids for some outing, be it in the park or the malls etc. Even when someone visited our house to see the kids, this was noticed. We used to check for possible stomach ache or something related but never could find any reasons. Few times we were forced to take the kids to the doctors in the mid of the might but it didn’t help much either.
Fortunately my grandmother during her visit to our place noticed this and suggested us to put a black spot on a child’s forehead before taking outside. This, she told will make the child look bit of ugly and the kid will stay protected from the so-called evil powers. This, I noticed was the common practice among all our relatives and they used to religiously put a little dot of kohl on the side of a child’s forehead a negative vibe over the kid Though I was not convinced, the father inside me forced me to follow this and we saw appreciable difference.
Over and above this, she also advised us to perform an exercise for ‘removing evil eye’ from the kid by taking a pinch of salt in the fist and them moving the fist circling the kid’s head seven times and then disposing off the salt in the running tap water. This also appeared ridiculous but then parents are the breeds who do many such unscientific things for the health, happiness and well being of their kids. And, to my surprise this worked quite effectively. People told that there are various scientific explanations for this, but for us the output mattered more than the justification and there are few things that do not in any way stifle the spirits of the concerned parents.