I was reading on internet about various instances where a husband has given divorce to his wife just by pronouncing ‘Talaq’. And with the advent of new technology in our daily lives, the deliverance of this type of divorce also has automatically been upgraded to match the latest trends.
So, now it is the video call, the WhatsApp, the Facebook and all such tech friendly social media which is being exploited by the dominant men to show women their place! The big question is why the mindsets are not upgraded?
I always wonder, if leave the religious binding, how exactly it works? I tried telling my wife, ‘Shut up’, Shut up’, ‘Shut up’, three times, still there was not much appreciable effect. However I have noticed that when the same is from her side, even for just one time, the effect is perceptible. This is attributed immediately to woman dominating in the family. So, is there anything wrong in that?
Men literally have no moral, social and technical right to dominate in a family. The only fact that they have a different biological structure that makes them less susceptible to physical abuse and harm is being taken as the license to declare themselves superior.
The greater part of the society still follows that orthodox unethical logic and resists the change. But the real fact is that, if the social security is guaranteed, there is absolutely no need for women to be dependent on men but the vice-versa is not true. That makes men the weaker sex.
How many single fathers are successful? If we see the data, due to natural and social causes, more women were forced to stay single despite having the responsibility of raising their kids. Men immediately jump to the next boat of marriage which they do get easily, thanks to the biological and social reasons. That again proves men the weaker sex.
Most of the men are born to women (except those who indulge in rape and killings of women) and when they are young, they understand the power of a woman. They are purely dependent on their mother and respect women till the testosterone levels rise, social influences dominate and mould them into the absurd personality of a man. That is the real sign of a weaker sex.
How many men know how to change the diapers of the babies? How to bottle feed them? What is their immunization schedule? When to start the solid food? And above all how much time do men spend with their infants though being the best phase of a man’s life?
Few of my uncles have never held their kids on their lap? They limit themselves to asking the questions, where is the kid? What is she or he doing? Is everything fine? That’s it! They have never sat with their kids for talking with them, playing with them, making a project or making them do their homework.
These men think, their job is only to earn money and that is the reason why they are the head of the family. They think that they run the family and without them everything will come to a standstill. How can one call such men as fathers? They don’t understand that this limits them to mere sponsors or in most case, the ‘sperm donator’.
So, if a man gets a civilian job that requires him to stay away from family frequently or for long then better to take up farming instead. Those who feel that being busy in meetings, staying late night in office for earning money is fetching comfort to their family members and helping them leading an extravagant life, it is totally wrong. There are many things money can’t replace and one of them is togetherness. It is always the ‘family first’.
Marriage is a deemed institution with no one as the principal. Husband and wife are the faculty members and other relatives, the supporting staff. Parents raise the kids imparting the education that no external school can. I am still not able to understand how it can be closed by just a voice or a video call or a message?
Disclaimer: The views expressed are author’s personal views and are not intended to hurt the religious or social sentiments of people.