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Removing ‘evil eye’

Kids are the most beautiful gift of this materialistic world. A smile on their face makes us forget all our agonies. They are our future and they become what we teach them to be. Couples without kids are the most unfortunate beings in this world. The childless couples go from temples to churches to daragahs for the fulfillment of their desire of having kids. Many of these succeed too making firm the belief of the existence of a supernatural power in this world.

Parents do anything and everything for the happiness of their kids. Many fall in the trap of pseudo-religious leaders who take the parents for a ride and poor parents let that happen. It is said that Mughal emperor Babur sacrificed his own life for the good health of his son Humayun.  King Dhritarashtra’s blind love for his son is also well known. Over and above all, the mother’s love for her kids is beyond the words.

This love is the source of various superstitions of which most are common with all the parents all over the world irrespective of their education levels. For example, black cat crossing your path will make you think twice before proceeding. Similarly, you may not initiate many things on Friday, the 13th or say ‘touchwood’ for something good to stay forever.

Our kids in their early ages were quite cranky especially during the night time. They used to get up in the middle of their sleep and start crying for no known reasons. This generally used to happen on the days when we take the kids for some outing, be it in the park or the malls etc. Even when someone visited our house to see the kids, this was noticed. We used to check for possible stomach ache or something related but never could find any reasons. Few times we were forced to take the kids to the doctors in the mid of the might but it didn’t help much either.

Fortunately my grandmother during her visit to our place noticed this and suggested us to put a black spot on a child’s forehead before taking outside. This, she told will make the child look bit of ugly and the kid will stay protected from the so-called evil powers. This, I noticed was the common practice among all our relatives and they used to religiously put a little dot of kohl on the side of a child’s forehead a negative vibe over the kid Though I was not convinced, the father inside me forced me to follow this and we saw appreciable difference.

Over and above this, she also advised us to perform an exercise for ‘removing evil eye’ from the kid by taking a pinch of salt in the fist and them moving the fist circling the kid’s head seven times and then disposing off the salt in the running tap water. This also appeared ridiculous but then parents are the breeds who do many such unscientific things for the health, happiness and well being of their kids.  And, to my surprise this worked quite effectively. People told that there are various scientific explanations for this, but for us the output mattered more than the justification and there are few things that do not in any way stifle the spirits of the concerned parents.

Note: The above write up is purely based on the experience and in no way justifies or promotes the ritual. This is just shared for readers to be aware and share their experiences.
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unity in diversity

let the celebrations of yesteryear rewind

with the absolute power of people behind

genuine efforts to carry the ultimate legacy

with memories dipped in pride and ecstacy

a huge nation with the diversity unlimited

languages, cultures and heritage distributed

many countries embedded in a vast mainland

equal opportunities to all in their dreamland

a real symbol of tolerance, respect and peace

holding the destiny of mankind and its keys

spreading the power of Ayurveda and yoga

the magical chanting of mesmerizing sloka

a unique homeland in the lap of nature

a picture perfect silhouette of the future

making people in planet happy and gay

celebrating today its grand republic day

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No strategies, its my life

when I fail in my endeavours, they say I am not practical

but why do I plan a strategy, I am not a political animal

so what if success doesn’t come to me in an open platter

thought hope is not a strategy, for me it really does matter

I may lose to contemporaries, but that won’t hurt me at all

as I don’t have much expectations, my ambitions are small

failures never get to my heart, the success not on my head

and I will keep trying it my way till I am completely dead

so, if I will not find my love, my love may find me someday

I may not be there fully, but I am closer than I was yesterday

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our brilliance

brilliant are not those ideas that sparkle innovation

nor are those people who are worthy of celebration

brilliant are not those things that keep us motivated

nor are those stuffs that we often call sophisticated

brilliance is the inherent characteristics of beholder

a pious and honest mind being the only stakeholder

being brilliant is vague if we don’t respect anything

our stubborn and deceitful ego thwart everything

people may overact to exhibit their sheer resilience

but simplicity is the only means to achieve brilliance

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the reservation

After the efforts put for yesterday’s conversation

I will try to convey to you without any reservation

who knows tomorrow one may plan preservation

this should not build the unexpected frustration

let us honestly concentrate on today’s reservations

it is much hated word in many developed nations

in some countries it is the symbol of identification

but surely it doesn’t go well with new generation

reservation ignoring abilities is a social suffocation

if required it may be limited to the field of education

the reservation for tourism be the only application

which gives equal opportunity for entire population

reservation should be positivity without any negation

like the faith is nothing but trust without reservation

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Men-the weaker sex

I was reading on internet about various instances where a husband has given divorce to his wife just by pronouncing ‘Talaq’. And with the advent of new technology in our daily lives, the deliverance of this type of divorce also has automatically been upgraded to match the latest trends.

So, now it is the video call, the WhatsApp, the Facebook and all such tech friendly social media which is being exploited by the dominant men to show women their place! The big question is why the mindsets are not upgraded?

I always wonder, if leave the religious binding, how exactly it works? I tried telling my wife, ‘Shut up’, Shut up’, ‘Shut up’, three times, still there was not much appreciable effect. However I have noticed that when the same is from her side, even for just one time, the effect is perceptible. This is attributed immediately to woman dominating in the family. So, is there anything wrong in that?

Men literally have no moral, social and technical right to dominate in a family. The only fact that they have a different biological structure that makes them less susceptible to physical abuse and harm is being taken as the license to declare themselves superior.

The greater part of the society still follows that orthodox unethical logic and resists the change. But the real fact is that, if the social security is guaranteed, there is absolutely no need for women to be dependent on men but the vice-versa is not true. That makes men the weaker sex.

How many single fathers are successful? If we see the data, due to natural and social causes, more women were forced to stay single despite having the responsibility of raising their kids. Men immediately jump to the next boat of marriage which they do get easily, thanks to the biological and social reasons. That again proves men the weaker sex.

Most of the men are born to women (except those who indulge in rape and killings of women) and when they are young, they understand the power of a woman. They are purely dependent on their mother and respect women till the testosterone levels rise, social influences dominate and mould them into the absurd personality of a man. That is the real sign of a weaker sex.

How many men know how to change the diapers of the babies? How to bottle feed them? What is their immunization schedule? When to start the solid food? And above all how much time do men spend with their infants though being the best phase of a man’s life?

Few of my uncles have never held their kids on their lap? They limit themselves to asking the questions, where is the kid? What is she or he doing? Is everything fine? That’s it! They have never sat with their kids for talking with them, playing with them, making a project or making them do their homework.

These men think, their job is only to earn money and that is the reason why they are the head of the family. They think that they run the family and without them everything will come to a standstill. How can one call such men as fathers? They don’t understand that this limits them to mere sponsors or in most case, the ‘sperm donator’.

So, if a man gets a civilian job that requires him to stay away from family frequently or for long then better to take up farming instead. Those who feel that being busy in meetings, staying late night in office for earning money is fetching comfort to their family members and helping them leading an extravagant life, it is totally wrong. There are many things money can’t replace and one of them is togetherness. It is always the ‘family first’.

Marriage is a deemed institution with no one as the principal. Husband and wife are the faculty members and other relatives, the supporting staff. Parents raise the kids imparting the education that no external school can. I am still not able to understand how it can be closed by just a voice or a video call or a message?

Disclaimer: The views expressed are author’s personal views and are not intended to hurt the religious or social sentiments of people.
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the inheritance

we are born fortunately human

we inherit blood and the genes

if at all the wisdom is inherited

goodness will be in the routines

as we can’t live merely on heritance 

our deeds on earth define the nobility

the destiny shows its sense of humour

the wrongdoings tarnish the credibility

let us spread our love everywhere

as love alters the laws of inheritance

love can transform the foes into friends

love makes humans realise their existence

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the string of belief

though we are miles away from each other

our hearts are too close to even bother

our cultures do not match by any means

but the art of living sparkles all our dreams

we do not even have the same mother tongue

but we converse through our hearts so young

surprisingly our gender is also not the same

but never could extinguish the burning flame

though our religious preferences are also unlike

but the religion of humanity had made us alike

yes, we are different and we are born to deviate

perhaps colour and the creed may also not relate

but this huge pile of differences is just meaningless

as the powerful string of belief is what that binds us

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my dreams

God! give me that one needle

that can knit beatiful dreams

the one that can create loops

loops of intermeshing emotions

stiched beautifully to perfection

perfect to the desired fantasies

fantacies that make me feel real

without the fear of ripping out

fear can make fall the dreams

like vulnerable castle of sand

I may again suddenly be awake

leaving absolutely nothing with me

with my achy eyes wide open

awaiting yet another opportunity

to dream again and become alive

as the dreams are in my breath

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The upbringing of a son

“Wow! Is she pregnant again?” Tina jumped with joy, “It is a great news”.

Sanjay had called Tina for a cup of tea assuring a surprise news. Hearing the introductory words made by Sanjay about the pregnancy of his wife, Tina jumped of joy. Tina and Sanjay were good childhood friends. Both were happily married and had awesome partners. But their friendship always made them share their secrets, routines and plans on regular basis. They both supplemented each other like the best of the friends to keep moving their family life in a smooth and planned manner. Continue reading