I was reading on internet about various instances where a husband has given divorce to his wife just by pronouncing ‘Talaq’. And with the advent of new technology in our daily lives, the deliverance of this type of divorce also has automatically been upgraded to match the latest trends.
So, now it is the video call, the WhatsApp, the Facebook and all such tech friendly social media which is being exploited by the dominant men to show women their place! The big question is why the mindsets are not upgraded?
I always wonder, if leave the religious binding, how exactly it works? I tried telling my wife, ‘Shut up’, Shut up’, ‘Shut up’, three times, still there was not much appreciable effect. However I have noticed that when the same is from her side, even for just one time, the effect is perceptible. This is attributed immediately to woman dominating in the family. So, is there anything wrong in that?
Men literally have no moral, social and technical right to dominate in a family. The only fact that they have a different biological structure that makes them less susceptible to physical abuse and harm is being taken as the license to declare themselves superior.
The greater part of the society still follows that orthodox unethical logic and resists the change. But the real fact is that, if the social security is guaranteed, there is absolutely no need for women to be dependent on men but the vice-versa is not true. That makes men the weaker sex.
How many single fathers are successful? If we see the data, due to natural and social causes, more women were forced to stay single despite having the responsibility of raising their kids. Men immediately jump to the next boat of marriage which they do get easily, thanks to the biological and social reasons. That again proves men the weaker sex.
Most of the men are born to women (except those who indulge in rape and killings of women) and when they are young, they understand the power of a woman. They are purely dependent on their mother and respect women till the testosterone levels rise, social influences dominate and mould them into the absurd personality of a man. That is the real sign of a weaker sex.
How many men know how to change the diapers of the babies? How to bottle feed them? What is their immunization schedule? When to start the solid food? And above all how much time do men spend with their infants though being the best phase of a man’s life?
Few of my uncles have never held their kids on their lap? They limit themselves to asking the questions, where is the kid? What is she or he doing? Is everything fine? That’s it! They have never sat with their kids for talking with them, playing with them, making a project or making them do their homework.
These men think, their job is only to earn money and that is the reason why they are the head of the family. They think that they run the family and without them everything will come to a standstill. How can one call such men as fathers? They don’t understand that this limits them to mere sponsors or in most case, the ‘sperm donator’.
So, if a man gets a civilian job that requires him to stay away from family frequently or for long then better to take up farming instead. Those who feel that being busy in meetings, staying late night in office for earning money is fetching comfort to their family members and helping them leading an extravagant life, it is totally wrong. There are many things money can’t replace and one of them is togetherness. It is always the ‘family first’.
Marriage is a deemed institution with no one as the principal. Husband and wife are the faculty members and other relatives, the supporting staff. Parents raise the kids imparting the education that no external school can. I am still not able to understand how it can be closed by just a voice or a video call or a message?
First of all thanks for this post. You have painted the picture perfectly.
The way men have assumed a godly status disgusts me to the core (i don’t know your gender i am sorry if you are one of them)
The man who feels its ok to end a relationship casually doesn’t deserve a woman in his life.
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thank you too for reading and commenting from the bottom of your heart….the truth is truth….gender no bar…..we can’t take the shelter of….gender, caste, creed, religion, language, region etc….to prove ourselves right…..
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Wrong is wrong.
If a man shuns all the rights of his wife and the way he should be treating her according to religion and jumps straight to the divorce right. This is something wrong with the man.
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yes…and it is a great insult to the institution of marriage and….to the nature….no one can justify this…it is so cruel…..
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People generally manipulate religion for thier own purpose.
Whenever they are doing injustice they use religion and culture as a shield.
They forget in the end they can’t recieve God.
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yes….no one can deceive Almighty….humans have devied their own ways t live the life….but it should not be biased and unnatural….the humankind should be benefitted by the divisions….if it takes it back to old ages….it is obsolete….it is wrong….it need to be discarded….
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I understand..
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Parental roles have been shifted same as gender roles which led to the deviated moral standards. Still, I see you have kept your sanity in check. These situations and social development of the relationships are somewhat useful. Either they shake your standing grounds or solidify your opinions and make you more firm to your beliefs. Great post. I enjoyed every word of it. 😀 Stay positive and keep writing.
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thanks a lot….you aways motivate me by your unbiased comments….you are apt in your explanation….though now the fathering too is becoming more interactive….still leaves a lots of scope for improvement….
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I am a preschool teacher by calling and an amateur writer. I’ve seen it all my friend. 😀 Still haven’t lost my hope for humanity. The fight goes on.
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Yes…hope makes us stay alive….isn’t it…?
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It is helpful. There are far stronger feelings that motivates us to keep going. A combination of feelings are needed to make someone alive, and hope is one of them. 😀 That’s why we can correlate with each other. 😀
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You are so very right…..
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Thanks for sharing this. I really needed to read something like this today. Even, every male should read this, especially the ones who thinks they are god for their wife, sister and daughter, those who thinks housewives are rather spending free enjoyable times at their homes,
They need to know how important are they in almost every aspect of men’s life, be it emotional or practical.
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Thanks for the encouragement….though there is nothing new or unknown that I have written….one needs to understand the reality….being on earth….instead of artificially boasting on the false perception….
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That is true. Everything is known. But knowing something and realising something is different.
We know the realities but don’t bother to act on it.
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Agreed….and that way we make our life complicated and worthless….
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So, how to make it simple and worthy.
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Just follow the laws of nature …
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Thank you for sharing this. I like your thoughts on this matter especially the title 😊
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Nothing fascinating….there is no attempt of intentionally disregarding any gender….what was in my mind….just penned it down….
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Nice, thoughts here…I particularly liked the pun on “triple shut ups” 😁
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Thanks Deepssss…..
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If I could give multiple likes to this post I would ! I just loved this . You have stated amazing points and explained the current situation so well ! Thanks for sharing this post .
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It’s absolutely my pleasure….thank you for the encouragement….
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